It’s all about the energy! You’ve heard that a lot from me, and you’ll continue to hear it, because all the inner work we do, whether it’s healing past traumas, bringing more positivity into our lives or strengthening our intuition is based around autonomy over our own energy. Believe it or not, nobody else can affect our energy unless we allow them to, so how can we take back control and feel more positive? By making simple energy shifts to change our thinking, that’s how!
We can’t control what happens around us, or what other people say and do, but we do have power over every situation we face, and that power is in the way we respond to events and experiences. We can see challenges and traumas as roadblocks on our life path, or we can see them as diversions to deal with which may even turn out to be a better route than we originally planned; the choice is entirely and exclusively ours.
Changes in life and circumstances:
Change is inevitable; it happens all the time, all around us, and mostly it’s unwelcome. That’s because our default setting, influenced by the ego rather than the soul, is to preserve the status quo. If it isn’t broke, don’t fix it, we’re okay as we are – you know the sort of thing, because we’re all guilty of this kind of thinking when confronted with change.
These thoughts are resistant to change and they will draw negativity to us in the future if we don’t change our focus and embrace change. But how can we do that when we want to keep things as they are? Well, spiritually speaking, change is something that happens for specific reasons, it doesn’t just come about because the Universe has it in for you, and if you can learn to accept change as inevitable, you can then move on to embrace it.
It is what it is
For me, this is one of the most powerful phrases to have in your spiritual lexicography. It’s a sign of acceptance, and recognition that you can’t do anything about what’s happening, so you’re going to focus on dealing with it instead.
Whether it’s a friend moving to another area, a change of job, or even a loved one passing to Spirit, if you can’t do anything to change the change, as it were, then you need to deal with it if you’re not going to be left longing for the return of the familiar. All that does is anchor you to the past, which means you miss out on the good things around you now.
‘It is what it is’ is your mantra. Say it to yourself often, write it down and look at it, and believe it. Not only will it help you accept change, it sends the signal to others, and to the Universe, that you accept that some things can’t be changed, and you’re okay with it.
Where’s the lesson in this?
When something unexpected happens, especially if it’s challenging for ourselves or others, we tend to ask ‘Why is this happening to me/them?’ While it’s understandable, it’s also negative on several levels. Are you saying it should happen to someone else? Or do you think that you deserve better than this? Each of these reactions come from the energy of fear and lack, but a simple shift can turn around your thinking and therefore your response to challenges.
Our traumas are where we learn our most powerful life lessons, so acknowledge that by instead asking, ‘What can I learn from this?’ If your partner has ended your relationship, maybe they came into your life for a brief time to learn something from you, or so that you could learn from them. It doesn’t have to be any fault on one side or the other, it’s just that not all relationships go the distance. Ask yourself if you were too trusting, or too possessive? Were there red flags you chose to ignore or just didn’t notice? Did you push down your intuition rather than being guided by it?
Don’t obsess over these questions, but somewhere in there is a lesson for you, your ex, or both of you. And even if you can’t see it for now because it’s still too raw, hold the thought that this is something to learn from, because that signals that you accept life goes on and things will improve. ‘Why me?’ is the energy of the victim, and you want none of that, do you?
Look for the silver lining
When change is in the air, we tend to focus on what we’ll lose by it. However, life is a balance overall, and change also brings benefits, even if they are not immediately obvious. Many of the people who come to me for Angel Card readings are anxious about changes in their lives, and are most concerned about how change will affect them adversely, and what they stand to lose by it. I offer them – and I offer you – another perspective. What will you gain from the change?
My clients tend to look surprised at this, because it hasn’t yet occurred to them that the change they resist could actually have benefits. Then realisation dawns and I see from their expression that they have already thought of something good. To use an old but accurate expression, it’s a silver lining in the cloud currently passing over them, and once they switch their energy to consider the positives of change, they immediately feel better.
Be grateful for everything, good and bad
It’s difficult to be grateful for the challenges and traumas we all face at one time or another. However, if we’ve been making the energy shifts we’re talking about here, we realise that difficult times present the best opportunities for learning and growing spiritually. And surely that’s something to be grateful for? Under the Law of Attraction, we attract what we send out, so if we can be send out gratitude, we will get more to be thankful for.
A good way to develop the Attitude of Gratitude is to make it part of your routine to send gratitude regularly. I thank the Angels and the Universe every night for everything that’s happened during the day, good and bad. And I give thanks again for each new day, because each day is a new opportunity, isn’t it? If your first and last thoughts each day are gratitude, you are setting yourself up for positivity, and you will attract more blessings into your life.
I don’t pretend that it’s easy to switch your thinking and your energy; it’s difficult to start with, and you have to make that conscious effort at a time when you are feeling anxious about the future. However, the more you switch, the more familiar it becomes, until you find it’s second nature.
We all have negative thoughts, because we’re just humans, and it’s okay to acknowledge them. However, it’s not okay to focus on the negative aspects of your situation, because that will bring more for you to worry about.
The Universe can’t make the distinction between what we want and don’t want in our lives, it just picks up on the focus of our energy and sends us more of what we focus on. Therefore it’s in our best interest to focus on the positive aspects of what’s happening around us. These simple shifts in thinking will switch our energy into positivity and bring more blessings into our lives. Love and blessings.